Strengths Spotlight #11: Self-control

Thanks for joining us for another spotlight on one of your 24 character strengths. We hope to provide a focus for you as you go through your day, and hope to support a specific strength ‘lens’ in your conversations and activities.

Being aware of, spotting and intentionally using character strengths supports wellbeing in individuals, and helps to build and deepen relationships.

Today’s spotlight is on Self-controlBelow is a summary of key resources and ideas from the podcast.


  • Self Regulation
  • Being in control of your emotions and committing to your goals

Self Control is a strength which is closely related to other strengths of Temperance, including Modesty and Prudence. These strengths are about tackling temptation and managing emotions and behaviour.

What does a focus on Self-control look like in your world today? Can you ask the other members of your household to look out for and share examples of self-control?


  • Younger kids might benefit from talking about how good it feels to work towards something, or do the harder thing that will be better in the long run.
  • With younger kids, play a game of Jenga or Chess. Sleeping Lions, Musical Statues and Red Light, Green Light are also great for practicing the skill.
  • A regular mindfulness practice supports the development of self control.
  • For teenagers and adults; reflect on your goals and goal setting.
  • Try bullet journaling.
  • Consider your habits, and learn about habit loops.


  1. Online Quiz
    Learn more about your own preferences with Gretchen Rubin’s Four Tendencies
  2. Book
    The Power of Habit, Charles Duhigg
  3. Book
    Atomic Habits, James Clear

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